I don’t know who originally told or wrote down this anecdote, or where I first read it—and if anyone could tell me, I’d love to give credit where credit is due—but I often think of it when a new wave of articles come out calculating the lottery-like odds for a writer looking to make a living with words, or when someone does a post questioning why it’s worth it to spend so many hours on something that may never see the outside of a file folder, or when the discussion of constructive criticism versus the other kind comes up.
But after dropping this story in comments here and there, it was recently suggested by a few people that I should use it as an actual post.
So here it is:

There was once a young violinist who practiced long hours, sacrificing time with family and friends for the sake of his music. He won several awards, but still wasn’t entirely sure if he had the talent to become a professional musician. So when a famous maestro came to town, he begged an audience and asked the older man to listen to him play and tell him once and for all if he should continue to pursue music.
The maestro agreed and the violinist played his soul out. But afterwards, the maestro shook his head and said, “No. I am sorry. You don’t have the fire.”
The young man was crushed. He put away his violin for good, turned to the family business, and did very well. He still loved music, though, and always supported the local orchestra in acknowledgement of his past dreams. One day, he was delighted to receive an invitation to a party to welcome a visiting conductor—the old maestro.
At the party, the former violinist approached the older man and said, “You may not remember me, but years ago, I played for you. You told me I didn’t have the fire to be a musician. Your words hurt at the time, but I thank you for them now. I’ve built a good, secure life instead of wasting my life on something I could never have.”
The maestro smiled and said, “I don’t remember, no. To be honest, I barely listen to the young musicians who ask me to judge them—there are far too many! So I tell every one of them the same thing, that they don’t have what it takes.”
“What?!” the man said. “But . . . if you didn’t pay any attention to my performance, maybe I did have the fire—I might have been a great soloist!”
“But see,” said the maestro, “if you’d truly had the fire, you wouldn’t have paid any attention to me.”
The thing is . . . we can argue talent versus practice versus delusions versus luck until the cows sneak in past curfew, but I’ve noticed that successful writers—whatever the definition—seem do one thing that others don’t: they write. A lot. And they keep doing it, despite time crunches and kids, health issues and work crises, multiple rejections and too much praise, and all the other assorted excuses life likes to lob at us.
Hmmm . . .
This reminds me of one of my daughters. God help you if you get in her way.
Your artist definitely has the fire, MSB!
Love this story. But even so, sometimes I wonder if I’ve continued to write all these years because I really have “it” or instead because I’m simply delusional.
That’s me — Debbie Downer!!
First of all, you do have “it.” But part of having “it” means having discipline. There’s no point at all to having a great voice and an original mind—like you do, like Sarah does—if you can’t make yourself sit down and get on with the work.
There’s always a catch . . .
You definitely have ‘it’ Laura, but you’ve worked for ‘it,’ too.
And if you’re delusional, the rest of us are, too, because we love your stuff. In fact, “How to Speak Czech” is July’s selection for my short story group!
This has troubled me for a long time, but really it’s Occam’s razor: The complicated answer is somehow, despite being a talentless schlub, one continues to write, be praised, get published, etc. Is it a vast conspiracy to promote and publish you? Hell no. The easiest answer is that you do have it.
So glad you posted this. It’s a goodie.
Thanks for the opportunity to use it yesterday, Mike, and the suggestion!
A great reminder Sarah.
Yeah. Now where can I get some discipline and thicker skin?
I invite yo’all to read the book, “Mind Set” by Carol Dweck, who has a good bit to say about talent and practice, supported by lots of research to back up her conclusions. While it may not be true that anybody can do anything, it is true that no one knows for sure what any ones abilities are, including his/her own.
Is that the book you were reading at Thanksgiving, Dad? It sounded pretty good, but I didn’t get much chance to look at it.
I’m going to look for that book. Thank you for the tip, Mr. Sarah’s Dad!
Sarah! I love this. Love, love, love this. Thank you. What timing.
We all seem to be asking the same tough questions lately. Maybe it’s the weather?